On April 18, 2011 – I got married.
We literally planned the entire event in two months. How lucky we are to be artists, and because we were able to apply our creative juices to make it a special (and affordable) day. Hopefully you will feel inspired to approach your events with the same creativity and community.
My Spouse is primarily a Ballet dancer Stephen Hanna. We are also both men, so planning a wedding in 2011 was relatively new territory all around. How to pay for it? Who wears the dress?
This also appeared as a blessing, as we had no traditions that we HAD to follow. We could create our own, and boy was that fun.
These photos are by Laura Marie Duncan who was in Billy Elliot on Broadway with my husband. Almost every vendor in our wedding was someone we knew, and a dear friend. This made us feel surrounded by love the entire day.
First we decided to get married on a Monday, for several reasons: April 18 was the anniversary of our first date, also Monday is when most of our friends are off from their 8 show a week schedules, ALSO, we could get a venue for pretty cheap as Mondays are not always busy days for events!
We go married in the beautiful town of Greenwich Connecticut because it was legally recognized there (little did we know NY would change their laws two months later). Also, when I googled towns in CT near NYC, Greenwich had the prettiest Town Hall. (truth) It’s a free venue.
So, we sent invites, but chose to invite people the “green” way, with online Paperless Post invites. Many people think this is a “ghetto” way to go, but I disagree, we were able to get the invites and feedback from people in the short amount of time we had to plan our wedding. It proved to be a guiltless, cost-effective way of getting the news out.
Then came the best part of it all, planning the actual event. I was inspired from photos I found on different websites, and wanted to give it an earthy vintage feel. I used Etsy to have our suits and ties custom built. Ordered vintage vases, rented vintage books by the foot from the Strand, and had a florist friend order flowers for us wholesale.
The reception was organized by our dear friend Jeno at Manhattan Penthouse. It was a glorious space!
We have these wedding rings designed and created by Jamie Wolf Designs that featured our birthstones on each side, Stephen’s being Topaz and mine Emerald, we decided to use Yellow and Green as our colors. Then all of our center pieces were focused around different yellow flowers.
What’s amazing about being an artist in NYC is all of our friends have amazing creative gifts. Instead of receiving physical gifts from some of our friends, we asked if they would give us their creative gifts. Some very special friends assembled all of our flowers on the day of, check out these arrangements.
Then to make sure people knew their seating assignments, we assigned corresponding seeds and bulbs to the centerpiece. Everyone got to take home seeds and plant them, so they would continue to grow with our marriage.
Our “first dance” was with the Spangles Dance Company, we couldn’t take it too seriously, and no one expected it. I love a sweet surprise.
My Broadway pal Scott Barnhardt was in charge of the entertainment during our meal, and he and several of our talented musical friends put on a cabaret that was incredibly special to us.
Once the cake came out, the dining room became the dance floor. The cake provided by our generous friend Adrian Bailey was chocolate with Strawberries and whipped icing. It was to-die-for.
Finally, our friend George Hahn was in charge of videoing the entire day, and later we had our friend Eric Anderson edit the video below for us to keep forever.
Planning a wedding can be a community event, and when your community is artists, why not make it a creative one. It certainly is one we will never forget.